What are the benefits of Husband Sharing?

The benefits of polyamory are many and really this is the natural condition of the human species.

We are not designed to be faithful, monogamous and live happily ever after with one person from the age of 24 to 84. Just not natural.

Polyamory is natural not least because it allows humans to enjoy and embrace their sexuality without guilt and shame.

Global society is now moving quickly to a post-marriage social arrangement and we will all be a lot better off for it.

The only people who will lose out will be the divorce lawyers.

Sexuality is a powerful drive in each of us, but so long as we pretend we can control it simply by saying, “I do” or “I love you,” then we are always going to be picking up the pieces some years later.

Very few of us can have sex with only one person for decade after decade. This is a truth that every man knows, though few will ever admit it and certainly not to their wife or partner. Yes, I know, many women will say that they cannot have sex with someone they don’t love. Not true. Don’t believe it. Women who say this are just in denial. Women can have sex for pleasure just like men can. And increasingly they are doing. Holding on to this ‘sexual ideal’ has always been problematic, but in the 21st century, when people travel and communicate so much more quickly and readily, it has become a major issue in relationships.

Some quotes from my book The Relationship Manifesto:

‘Monogamy favours the insecure’

‘Culturally enforced monogamy is a mistake that people around the world are now trying to put right’

‘When it comes to sexual pleasure, both youth and virginity are seriously over-rated’

‘Natural desire makes sex addicts of us all’

‘Everyone pays for sex one way or another’

‘Hypocrisy is the stronghold of the fainthearted’

‘Only the person who can satisfy their sexual needs without guilt or shame is truly free’

‘You would expect couples who do swinging and into partner-sharing to be insecure, jealous and have weak relationships. Well, you’d be wrong. The fact is, most of the couples who swing must be in very close, intimate relationship, where there is an absence of insecurity and jealousy. Indeed, all the research into swinging couples suggests they are very contented in their relationships. Which would make sense as couples not at ease with each other could not participate. I’ve visited a number of swingers clubs in Europe and the UK and never once saw any couple argue or fall out in a club. There is an impressive absence of jealousy and control. Every couple I met were partaking openly and willingly. There was no coercion that I saw. There was a lot of pleasure and honesty.’

‘The couple who swing together are more likely to stay together’